Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.
Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.
Carl Jung
During couple counselling we work together to facilitate communication between yourself and your partner. While the therapist provides a safe, neutral space for both of you, you can openly express feelings, discuss conflicts, and work towards healthier patterns of interaction.
The counselling space allows each one of you to share whatever you are feeling and thinking without judgement or repercussions, thus allowing you to feel more open and vulnerable. Because the conversation remains calm and under control, it provides a context in which you learn to listen and express yourselves without blame or fear. The process will hopefully support you both in improving how you talk and relate with each other.
We can address whatever challenges, doubts, feelings, anxieties you want to bring.
When we explore recurring arguments or disagreements in a constructive way, you will become better equipped at resolving conflicts.
When we work through issues like infidelity, dishonesty, or broken promises, you might rebuild your trust and strengthen your connection, which in turn helps you with intimacy, empathy, and shared goals.
At times, we will have to come to difficult but important decisions about whether to continue, change, or end the relationship and we will do this in a healthy way that can support you both and anyone else in your family.
Couple counselling. however, is not only for relationships in crisis—many couples also seek counselling proactively to deepen their connection, improve their communication, manage repetitive patterns of interactions or prepare for major life changes (like marriage, children, or relocation).
While still living in London, I set up a network of therapists and midwives, who specialise in working with women and men dealing with issues regarding fertility, pregnancy and parenthood. I was the psychotherapist in the group and worked with couples at any stage of the emotional roller-coaster that was their often difficult journey to becoming parents and beyond.
This is my life’s work and I'm very passionate about it. I feel privileged to be allowed into my clients' worlds while accompanying them on their own journeys. I never fail to be touched and changed by these encounters.
I am a member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).
Please see my listing on the Counselling Directory:
www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/barbara-mella